“I am so proud of how far we have come!!!

L.D.C

"Hi Pete, hope you are well.

I have just been reflecting and thinking about life over the last year as it’s roughly a year since [my husband] and I had our very first call with you.

Wow, what a year! Did I really believe back then that we would come through the hurt, pain and blame to continue a life together? probably not; but I did believe that I wanted to try everything I could to save our marriage. Back then [my husband] just wanted to understand why he made the choices he did and I just wanted to have faith that he wouldn’t make those choices again. 

We are so thankful to have found you, Nikki and the program. We worked hard on the modules separately and together and here we are one year later continually building our life together with clarity about who we are and how we operate and how we can truly give our love for a stronger partnership.

We cannot change our past but we can influence our future and with all that you have taught us we are doing so every single day, so thank you.

We dip in and out of the live group coaching calls now and it’s bitter sweet to hear some of the new attendees. I am sad for them that they have found themselves in need of the help, but thrilled that they have found the help that will really make a difference.

Eternally grateful!"

J.H.

"This month will be 2 years since D day.

My husband is a wonderful human being and I love him with all I am.

And I know he loves me as well.

This program has saved our family and taught us so much about our selves."

P.J.C.

"I’m so grateful that we found your program, is teaching us so much about ourselves as individuals and as a couple. Fills my chest with that “funny electricity” that you described in one of your episodes when I think of us working together to have a better life ❤️

Thank you again to you and Nikki all your time and work to create all this! 

P.M.

"At first I found your website searching “why do I keep cheating on my wife?” What captivated me after watching your first video was your approach and search for answers. 

Your first video struck a chord with me after you explained unconditional love. After your 10 mini series it all began to make sense. My parents never, even to this day say the words “I love you”

And thinking about it more in depth, they never told me that as a kid. Even if I say “I love you” I’ll get a “me too” reply or “ditto” I never realized that until now how much something like unconditional love meant or the importance of it. And honestly I didn’t really know what it was myself 

I’ve been to many counseling sessions over the years and after watching your videos you are light years ahead of the traditional marriage counselor."

R.P.

“I completed a doctorate and I’m a chartered psychologist, but I’ve felt so ashamed about what I do, I feel like a fraud at work as I’ve been so unable to sort myself out. Out of all the theories, models, and studies I’ve completed, the package you have put together is absolutely incredible. The way I’ve been trained to work with clients does not compare at all to the powerful package you have put together - thank you. I’m growing through this now!”

J.S.

“Hello Pete and Nikki,

I hope this message finds you well. The first week has been fantastic. I have been very surprised to learn that my insecurities and self image issues have been a vast root structure feeding the raw emotions and fear that I have felt. I did not realize that I had and have to work on my emotional well-being before I will ever be able to show [my wife] the unconditional love that she needs and deserves.

I have completed the modules thus far. Love that you limit them to one per day, otherwise I would rush through them. A person really needs the time to let the message sink in. I’m really enjoying the recorded group chats. Your program fills my heart with hope and my mind with better thoughts. It’s hard to believe that it has only been one week. The emotional place I’m in now feels so far away from dark and fearful place I thought I was stuck in just one week ago. I thank both you and Nikki for what you are doing. I am excited to see what comes next. Thank you!”

J.C. 

“I would proclaim the wonders of this program from a mountaintop!! Not just for what it has done for our relationship but for what it has done for me personally and the peace it has brought to my heart.”

T.F. 

“The 'what's love got to do with it' course has been nothing short of a game changer in my life. It has helped me in all aspects of my life not just my marriage and really a path to understanding oneself and how we relate to everyone and reconcile our past and present. Before this course I did not believe or understand the concept of love. Now I understand that a lot of what I had learned about love all my life was wrong....and when you learn about 'unconditional love' then the lightbulb comes on. The best course i have ever done!"

T.S.

"I am grateful every day for this program that has helped me be a better person and my marriage a truly loving one." 💕

B.T.S.

"I came across this programme post 7 months of my husbands affair coming to light.

Prior to joining this programme we had tried several marriage counsellors in the hope they will be able to help us save our marriage and most importantly help me understand why he did what he did. Unfortunately they were all a waste of time and money, it was like talking to someone at the other end of the phone where I could offload and that was it, we got nothing back in return!!!

By this time I was beginning to believe my marriage was truly over and the last 20 years was all a sham.

Something inside me was telling me otherwise, as much as I hated my husband at this point for hurting me my heart was not ready to give up.I went back to Google and there it was, my miracle, I found this programme!!!

Joining this programme has been the best thing that could have happened to our relationship, it started as overcoming infidelity but now the whole focus is on healing my inner self and bettering myself.

The help and support that you get off Pete and Nikki is phenomenal. Their dedication to helping people save their marriage is above and beyond any other therapy/programme out there.

The Facebook page is a real valuable asset where all the spouses (betrayed/betrayers) can post issues, share their stories, count on for support without being judged.

The one to ones that Pete offers are so valuable, you learn so much in just one call. Same for the weekly live group coaching calls, there is something in there for everyone.

We have been on this programme now for 17 months and I can happily say the best thing my husband could have done was have his affair….otherwise I would never have found this programme.

My relationship with my husband is beyond imaginable, life is beautiful and all this has been achieved from doing this programme, learning about myself and most importantly understanding my husband 😊

R.V.

"Pete Uglow and Nikki Uglow, I know you do not desire praise or accolades for the work you do, but please know that this program is changing lives and I believe it is essential for our very human existence in this world, if we are to love unconditionally. So I say, thank you."

D.A. 

I just want to say thanks for your personal (not blanket) reply emails. Firstly just receiving these and the content really helped. Secondly as suggested I purchased the Crisis Phase program and currently working my way through it. It has been eye opening and brilliant but more importantly helping me understand the situation too the extent that my wife says she can’t understand how I am not angry at her or how I can be so understanding about her loving the other guy as well as me. I have told her that because of your support and videos I am understanding why etc. and once she is ready to engage she will too, she says she will in a couple of days, but even now we are in at better place than we were last week.

I know we still have a long journey and I really hope that once she engages we will go on to complete the second course and repair our marriage. So thank you so far.

J.J

"I was just thinking that I can say I'm grateful for the infidelity that has brought me to where I am today. Through this program it led me to the inner healing that was long overdue. I'm still a work in progress but the inner healing and inner peace I have now was worth the pain. I finally feel like I'm showing up in the world as my true authentic self and it feels amazing. This is an amazing program and equally amazing group of people no matter what stage of the journey we are on."

D.A.S.

"The effectiveness of this program is difficult to comprehend or express sometimes. I did not expect it to be so complete, and rounded. It is certainly not a "do once and put down" issue.

I find that, when a black mood hits - Going onto the program and doing the next day's work releases the pressure, changes thinking.

- The Facebook page always has something, somewhere to change your thoughts. By someone who knows what you feel, as they are / were there.

- The two weekly group get togethers guide you into paths or approaches that you would not otherwise consider.

- Looking at the posted group chats, you will nearly always find your problem has been discussed and dissected somewhere, some time. A new light / slant is cast on it.

I said somewhere that this program is worth it's weight in gold. I think it should upgrade to platinum.

Pete and Nikki's advice and comments are priceless, and the input from people going through it with you, who UNDERSTAND your feelings, just serves to reinforce what they say.

Great encouragement, always. "

P.C.

"Pete, I've discovered this week that the more I concentrated on wishing [my husband] was in as much pain as I am, or reliving his affairs and digging for details, I was only punishing myself and keeping myself in unnecessary emotional pain and turmoil. It was like emotional "cutting ". When I acknowledged that my pain was coming from my own feelings of worthlessness or not feeling I was good enough, I began to fill up my own emotional battery which is only my responsibility to do. I reminded myself daily and with the triggers that what he did was because of his own childhood emotional trauma and emotional emptiness. Being on the LGCC today helped me refocus again. I feel like this program is a total deconstruction of wrong thinking and reconstruction of a healthy emotional system. I could never do this without your teachings, encouragement and supportive environment. I feel as though we are in emotional kindergarten school. Thanks for all you and Nikki do. Not enough words to express my gratitude."

D.A.

"We have been in the programme for approximately 3.5 months. I found out about the affair or affairs 9 months prior and still wouldn't know if an STD hadn't played a role in this. I can say I am so glad I stumbled across the programme. My husband has been so engaged and we did the whole programme together and the worksheets. He would even ask me if I wanted to listen to another one or if we had anymore worksheets. There truly have been big changes for the both of us and still have a ways to go. So thankful for the Live host calls and all the previous recordings."

"Honestly this is an email I never thought I’d write - ever.

We are HAPPY! I mean really, really happy.  I really did think I was destined to live a sort of ‘limp’ happiness, one were an infidelity cloud just hung over me for the rest of my life.  But we've become the couple we were always meant to be. We are closer than we’ve been in 5 years - at least! We can talk openly with each other about anything now. That includes the infidelity, which I’m sure that if it didn’t happen, we would be headed straight for separation. Funny, eh? That something so utterly destroying can end up cementing our marriage.  

And it was all down to this programme... it really only does take one person to take part and totally embrace it for it to work. For that, I’ll be forever grateful!"

L.B. 

"I have found a peace in my heart that I never had before this program"

B.S.A 

"Good morning Pete! We hope you are doing well! We are enjoying the program SO MUCH and getting so much out of it, I have no idea where we would be without it right now!"

S& P.D

Keep moving forward, exhaust every avenue of this program. 

Work to heal regardless of whether you are staying in the relationship or not. 

Work as hard as you are hurting. It gets better.

If your partner was fighting a medical condition you would get them the best care. They are hurt emotionally, it wasn't about you. I promise 

It gets better, work hard, be consistent, be diligent.

This is a GREAT program, you get out of it what you put into it.

The best is yet to come. 

Keep your head up”. 

N.R.

"Sometimes I stare at him with a feeling of unconditional love deeper than I’ve ever felt before. It is not because of the betrayal that happened, it is because we have learned to pour our hearts out to each other every day. We never understood before doing this programme that we must work on our marriage every single day and it’s worth it. Our marriage, our friendship, our commitment to each other has risen to a higher level beyond our imaginations. I would never want to relive the betrayal but this “new” us is the happiest place I’ve ever been!” 

M.R.

"My husband and I joined this program 2 years ago this month, after he revealed to me that he'd been having an affair. 

"I can't thank you and Nikki enough for what you've done for us! I woke up at peace this morning caressing my husbands arm and "at peace" is an amazing way to start the day, so I had to share!! The knowledge that you've shared from your experience has truly helped save my marriage and I'll be forever thankful. I also hope that in a world lacking unconditional love this e-mail finds you & your family doing well, safe and happy."

T.P.

"Happy Sunday 😊How are you? Hope you and Nikki are well.

R. V.

"The issues we all seem to have in common is we, at some point in time, became emotionally empty and didn’t realize it. Thanks to Pete Uglow and Nikki Uglow and the program they’ve worked so hard putting together and their support, none of us would be any better trying to figure any of this out on our own. So thank you so much to you two and all that are on our amazing forum. We all get through this journey as long as we’re open to new ideas, thoughts and perceptions."

R. V.

"Hi Pete,

We are half way through week 6 and I have to say that this course has really helped us to become closer and closer.

We had a lot of fun with the listening exercise yesterday.

[My husband] regularly says how is is enjoying the whole programme. We have both got folders with the worksheets which we revisit. We start every morning with a reflection and we now intend to have a relationship meeting every evening.

We both love your videos. We especially love your personal anecdotes as it makes it more realistic. Your delivery is great!

Thank you so much for everything."

M.M. 

"Pete Uglow, Thank you for this course, you're spot on!

We are so grateful for this course to have arrived at this critical understanding AND for the week 4 exercises that gave us the insight and root causes necessary to create an action plan for our v2.0 marriage that we are actually excited about. 

We look forward to the continued learning and growth we hope to gain ( and work hard at together) from the remainder of this course. I share this in hopes anyone struggling with immense hurt and raging Anger and resentment like I was will have hope and faith that through this course healing and triumph from an affair tragedy IS actually possible ! and for us as crazy as it sounds, we are grateful more than regretful for this affair event because it changed the diverging trajectory of our relationship and we are now hopeful that our marriage over the next 40 years will become the best years of our lives. ( Pete is soo right!! Just trust him, this course, this support group and the process!) 👍👊💪🏻❤️"

L.G.

"A couple of years ago my wife and I came across this program. I was the betrayer and I have to be honest, I didn’t think there would be anything that we could do to repair the damage that had been done.

In the beginning I felt that I was repeatedly getting beat up for the same mistakes. I wondered how I could ever get over these feelings, I was the fish out of water and I was sure I would not survive.

Two years later, the program has become the number one reason why I have been able to forgive myself for what happened to us.

It is so much more than just someone being right, and someone being wrong. No one is perfect and Pete and Nikki have done a helluva job helping me learn about self compassion, which in turn, makes me a better partner for my wife, and most importantly, a better person to myself! Everyone wins!"

G.S.

"I’ve never really liked myself, and even if my husband tried to be nice to me, I knew inside I would never be able to accept it. I heard Pete talking on a group call to someone else and the tears just started to flow - I realised he was describing me, exactly me. My heart felt like it was going to burst out of my rib cage. My husbands affair is NOT about me - it was all his hurting and just like I feel worthless, so does he. We cried together in love for the first time. I would have swapped my whole life just for that one moment."

P.P.

"My world crumbed when I stumbled across the fact my husband was having an affair. It didn't sink in for a few days, but when it did I was mad. Every time we tried to talk I'd end up screaming at him and crying. He would walk away or just look at me silently.

Over the next couple of weeks more information about his affairs came to light. Each revelation hammered me into the ground a little more.

After a few weeks I searched for 'how to get over an affair'. Reams of self help books appeared but in amongst them was a video. I watched it and felt as though someone had been watching me over the last few weeks and understood how I was feeling.

My husband was hesitant about joining the course initially but agreed to participate. We watched the first week of videos, both still really defensive and me so angry and hurt. 

What a difference that first week made! In a week we were already beginning to understanding why he'd had an affair, and how my behaviour had contributed to it. I never though I'd be saying 'I can see how I contributed to your affair', but I really did see how. The relief in my husband was visible. Finally he was beginning to see why he'd done what he'd done and that he wasn't the awful person he saw himself as. This was a momentous moment in our journey.

It's been an eye opener from then on. We are now three months into the programme. We're going through the programme for the second time. We're most definitely a work in progress and some days are better than others. We stumble at times, but now we have an ever growing tool kit to look into to help us back onto our feet.

We're both in our late 50's so it's going to take time to understand why we do things the way we do and to understand how we can change our feelings and reactions. We are doing it though and we can see the difference and feel the difference.

We are getting to know each other again, understanding our feelings and talking about them. Understanding how our behaviour impacts us individually and each other. Engaging positively with each other, communicating and laughing together again. We always used to laugh but hadn't realised that had gone. We and our home has a happier vibe, a calmer vibe and two people who are beginning to see themselves and each other again!"

C.S.

"I was in so much pain/confusion and turmoil 18 months ago. The pain felt unbearable at times. I could not get my head around the fact my spouse of over 30 years had been having a long term affair. It totally shattered my safety and deluded idea of what we had together.

I clung to this programme as an anchor to steady me.

I knew deep down it made complete sense even although I fought against some of the teachings at times when I would sink into victimhood…

I continued to listen, joined most of the group coaching calls and started to see “the truth” My husband did not join the programme so I worked it on my own.

The truth set me free!!

I understand my husband more today than I ever have.

I see my part in the entropy that had set into our marriage.

I take responsibility for my happiness today.

It gets easier and as you study this programme and use the support available you can feel much better quite quickly.

I can honestly say we have a respectful and loving relationship now.

Its not perfect but we’re much happier now than we were before my husbands infidelity 💞"

E.D.

But with your help I have learned that I do matter and because I now know that, I have been able to learn how to help (my husband) feel important too. The changes have been truly amazing. I absolutely know that he will never be unfaithful to me again and words can't convey this feeling. Our world is now understandable and we have a blueprint for our relationship going forwards. Thank you from the bottom of my heart."

A.D. 

"When I first spoke to Pete, I really liked the sound of the program and what it would do for us, but I didn’t like the idea that I had to do any of the work. He had cheated, surely it was his job to fix it. I couldn’t have been more wrong. Doing the program with my husband has brought us closer together in ways I couldn’t imagine to start with. It would have felt easier just to let him do it all but fixing our marriage together has become our new joint project. I’m learning to ask for what I want. And he’s learning to really listen to me. This has never happened in 27 years."

R.B.

Pete made a statement early in the programme which I could not initially get my head around. He stated that 'your spouse's/partner's affair is not what is causing your pain'. I have actually discovered that it is the lack of unconditional love and negative experiences in childhood that's the cause. Whenever I feel insecure, hurt, rejected, abandoned the pain of the past floods back followed by the voice  "You are not good enough" 

My pain existed long before my husband came along. It was just pushed down and covered over. 

Thanks to this programme I now know I matter to others. I am loved and I can freely love others. Regardless of my weight, intelligence, personality, earning potential, size of my home I am just as important as the next person.

So, thank you Pete (and Nikki). No doubt I will go through the programme again and again as well as join the coaching calls.

I intend to live life; to laugh, cry, feel, touch. I intend to love my family as I ought to. I intend to forgive myself for my past selfishness, for withholding love because I did not have it to give and for whatever mistakes I make in the future.😀 "

D.R.

C.S.​​

I wanted to say a massive thank you from both of us or everything, all the support and course content. We have almost completed the full 7 weeks now. 

I have found so much out about myself, never thought I would like an online course, but its been truly transforming. I am still learning. I am excited for our future together again. We have found each other again. Its like I have found the missing pieces.

I have noticed a transformation in (my husband) also, its truly magical. I have got my best friend back.

I will not lie, I still find myself some days in victim mode but I can now recognise this and know how to charge my battery. 

I am still going to come to the calls etc and we both are going to do the course again and again I am sure, as I know there is so much I still need to learn.

Without the course and continued support, I do not know where we would have been right now and we are both truly grateful.

Thank you "

L.H.

T.H.

E.M.