"A few months ago I discovered that my wife was involved in an affair with a mutual friend which had been running for some 2 months. To say I was shattered is an under statement - I have never felt so hurt, desolate and isolated in my life!
Having talked it over with her, she decided that we would work to restore our marriage.
I spent days researching steps to take to start the recovery. But, while there were many overlapping agreements - like an immediate, 100% severing of contact with the AP - some conflicted on what to do. Confusing.
Then I came across Peter's posting. We listened to his background chat, it made sense, so we set up the online chat.
In that hour online the link was established. It made so much sense what he promised. We decided to enter the program together.
I can categorically state that this course helped me beyond recognition. It explains causes, and demolishes the pain and doubts brick by brick.
I found that the further I went, the more I could face the issues. Often, I would start a session with churning heart and emotions, and walk out feeling as if the world was no longer on my shoulders. Particular once reaching the latter week 4 and start of week 5 huge inroads were made rolling away the barriers.
What I found great was the one to one help from Pete if needed - email the feelings, pain and circumstances, and you get a personal reply dealing with the issues.
The fact, if needed, you can have further one on one chat with him is also a wonderful safety net.
Listening to, or participating in the weekly zoom sessions is also a great part of it. Points are raised which help you. Things which you never considered are raised, throwing new aspects to the answers which may well help. Of course, some may not be related to your problem - you can just listen.
To complete the picture, being able to access past chat programs is invaluable. Looking at the index, you can find chats specific to your particular problem at that time, or, like us, work through them in sequence.
Putting all this support together, plus the Facebook page where numerous betrayers and betrayed partners can post issues, and receive totally supportive and non judgemental comments helping them in their particular problem areas at that time, gives you such a great, instructional, helpful structure where SOMEWHERE you will find help and a release from the pain you experience.
Are my wife and I over the whole issue? No. But we are improving and progressing every day. Our relationship is far better, and closer, than it was for some years before the affair. Our love is growing daily. We WILL make it.
I wish the affair had never happened! But, if I had the choice of no affair, and the indifferent, "friendship" relationship before, and the rekindled love and intimacy we now enjoy, and it grows daily, I am almost greatful it happened. With Peter's help, and this group, you learn to forgive, accept your part of the responsibility for the affair.
This course is invaluable and unique. Can only say that, if you apply yourself, you will emerge a better, stronger person in a relationship blessed with a closeness you and your spouse would not believe could emerge."